Abuse or violence that takes place within a domestic household. Can be between romantic partners, roommates, adult siblings, and can take the form of Elder Abuse where an elderly person is being abused by a live-in caretaker.
Specifically abuse or violence between romantic partners (or recent ex-partners) They do NOT need to live together.
Abuse or violence within a romantic relationship where at least one partner is under 18 years old.
Gender-based violence is violence directed against a person because of that person's gender or violence that affects persons of a particular gender (usually female) disproportionately.
Domestic Violence (also called family violence and partner assault) is rarely a one-time occurrence. It usually takes place as part of a cycle that includes the following phases:
Insults and other verbal attacks; minor abusive situations; victim tries to be compliant, “walks on eggshells,” and feels helpless; atmosphere becomes increasingly more oppressive.
Built-up tensions erupt into incidents ranging from severe verbal/emotional abuse to physical/sexual assault and can last from a few minutes to a few days, depending on the relationship. It is during this time that a woman is most likely to be seriously injured or killed by her partner.
Following a violent episode the abuser is usually contrite and attentive; the victim once again recognizes the person she first fell in love with and may be inclined to believe their partner’s promises to change.
Unless there is some form of intervention, the cycle usually repeats itself with the violent episodes escalating in frequency and intensity.
Hitting, punching, beating, slapping, shoving, pulling hair, use of weapons, spitting on you, biting, mutilation, burning, murder.
Any forced sexual contact ranging from unwanted touching to sexual forced acts, harassment. Includes forcing and disregarding consent, Human Sex Trafficking and sharing intimate images without consent.
Threats, insults, name-calling, unjust blaming and accusing, swearing, shouting, gaslighting, and accusing you of cheating. Also includes withholding love, sympathy or understanding, inadequate physical or emotional care, isolation (keeping you away from friends and family), intimidation, extreme jealousy, destroying property, threatening to commit suicide, and threatening to take children away.
Withholding money and/or denying access to bank account or employment opportunities, preventing access to household financial information, and forcing partner to earn an allowance.
Belittling a person’s spiritual beliefs or preventing them from attending the church, synagogue or temple of their choice. Also includes using one’s spiritual beliefs against them in an effort to force them to stay in an abusive situation.
Digital dating abuse is the use of technologies such as texting and social networking to bully, harass, stalk or intimidate a partner. This can include being forced to share passwords, having your private emails and messages combed through, being tracked via GPS, having ghost apps downloaded to monitor what you do and who you talk to online, threats via social media apps, and all verbal, emotional, psychological abuse perpetrated online.
Also includes using surveillance cameras or recorders within the home to monitor the victim, and taking/distributing intimate images online.
A form of power and control where one partner strips the other of the ability to control their own reproductive system. It can be difficult to identify reproductive coercion because other forms of abuse are often occurring simultaneously, but it would include acts such as being forced to keep or terminate a pregnancy, sabotaging birth control methods (ie: damaging condoms, replacing birth control pills with placebos, lying about a vasectomy or tubal ligation), purposefully transmitting Sexually Transmitted Infections, Stealthing (removal of condom during intercourse without partners knowledge/consent).
If you answered "Yes" to ANY of the above questions, your relationship might be abusive. Don’t ignore or minimize these warning signs. Get help now. You can call Maison Baldwin House’s 24-hour Crisis Line at 613-938-2958 or 1-800-267-1744
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